Alone with myself (part 2)
SENSE EQUILIBRIUM OR BRILLIANT FUETE? “In the group of our Irishka, everyone is recorded somewhere. Who attends music lessons, who dances, who goes to figure skating or gymnastics, but she does not want to go anywhere. We are afraid that she will miss this “time of great opportunities.” Should we persevere and choose something for her? ”It is very difficult to decide when it is necessary to push the child, when to hold. On the one hand, we are worried that our child will lag behind others if we are not persistent enough. On the other hand, there is a risk that our perseverance will only increase the child’s resistance and make him, so to speak, “chronic”. Before making a decision, think about what your baby is and what he may need. Does he show even the slightest interest in those activities to which you would like to attract him? Does he like those peers who attend these classes? Continue reading
Alone with myself (part 1)
In our efforts to keep the children busy, to make every hour of their life meaningful, entertaining, developing, do we not forget that they, like us, need just free, personal time, not planned by anyone. Time to relax, think, dream, just to “fool around” (an activity not very loved by school teachers). We feel annoyed when the child refuses some useful, from our point of view, classes after school, but is ready for the tenth time in a row to play the same film. Why does it make us sad and angry? Probably, deep down in our hearts, we believe that something is wrong with him or that we cannot cope with our parental responsibilities if we did not load our child every minute with something useful. Recall, however, how many of us are able to be active all day without breaks, whether it is a relaxing hot tub, talking with a friend on the phone, or a silly series? Even babies need to be alone for some time each day, knock on their rattles, carefully examine their toes and listen to music. Continue reading
Tale to the rescue (part 3)
am a storyteller Psychologist Natalya Katsevich advises parents to read, for example, fairy tales A.V. Miklyaeva, “We Are Not Afraid of the Gray Wolf” P.V. Rumyantseva, “Path to your Self” and “Labyrinth of the soul” O.V. Khukhlaeva, a collection of fairy tales by N.A. Sakovich, “Psychotherapeutic fairy tales, fairy-tale therapy with a“ special ”child” TD Zinkevich-Evstigneeva, “Forest School” M.A. Panfilova. In the process of reading psychological tales, the child understands that he is not indifferent to his mother and that there will always be a way out of a difficult situation. The main thing is to think both adults and children how and where to find it. A fairy tale develops imagination, fantasy, because in it the child sees himself so strong and smart, so kind and fearless. By the way, parents themselves can learn to compose magical stories. Continue reading
Tale to the rescue (part 2)
Do-it-yourself miracles What problems do their parents turn to fairy tales therapists? This includes numerous children’s fears, and increased aggressiveness, and hyperactivity, and laziness, and self-doubt, and inability to communicate with the team or make friends, and even soreness. Often, it is with psychosomatics that the child closes from the problems that frighten him. “In a kindergarten group,” says Natalya Katsevich, a case from practice, “a charming girl cried for any reason: they didn’t give a toy, she didn’t want to sleep, the soup was hot, etc. This went on for several weeks, and then the tale “Tearful Masha” arose, which the psychologist read to the girl. Parents read this tale to her several times, and in the summer a miracle happened when the girl found a hedgehog and began to look after him – everything is just like in our fairy tale. Continue reading
Tale to the rescue (part 1)
As a rule, all parents understand that raising a child is a big and difficult job. And alone, and even alone, it is impossible to cope with it. Need helpers. One of such assistants for mothers and fathers has long been a fairy tale. The experience is shared by Natalia Feliksovna Katsevich, chairman of the psychological service of the kindergarten of the “School of Cooperation.” Hints and lessons “A fairy tale is a lie, but there is a hint in it, a lesson for good fellows,” says folk wisdom. And traditionally, all parents have resorted to the help of these hints and lessons since then, probably, as the first fairy tale was told. Indeed, who among us did not hear in childhood, for example, the story about turnip, did not worry about the gullible seven kids, did not sympathize with the hare, who was driven out of the house by the insidious fox … It so happened that it is in fairy tales that children of all times and peoples draw their first answers to questions of life, from fairy tales they receive the first emotional help, in fairy tales they find examples of life scenarios. Continue reading