trying to compensate
I did not notice how another year flew by and my daughter Yulia was three. Literally in a matter of days, my flexible and good-natured child turned into an imperious little despot. – Give me the juice! She commanded. – Now! “Do you know the magic word?” I tried to call her to order. This phrase acted flawlessly on her older brother Alyosha, but Julia did not want to give in to her. “Are you a hundred, fooled?” Was her answer. – Give me si-xi-s! At first, I only laughed at the little cheeky: before, she was a sweet, calm child, and I often heard the word “posyalist” from her. But time passed, and she stubbornly refused to treat me humanly. The word “please” completely disappeared from her vocabulary. Then I decided to apply repression: do not fulfill a single request without a “please.” After this, a terrible struggle began, which caused only alienation between us. Continue reading
Is there a way out? – First of all, do not be nervous, as this is the problem of most two-year-olds. -l The baby has begun a new period of development and, as a result, outbreaks of aggression. – When you want to get angry and even punish the aggressor, try not to. This can cause a neurotic reaction or even greater aggression. If another baby came to visit you, and your child does not let him play his toys, then no matter how embarrassing you are, do not try to take them away by force and do not shame him – this will only strengthen the possessive feelings of the crumbs. – Try to let the children solve their problems themselves, but within certain limits. Small fights with a push and a squeal are quite acceptable when the kids learn to communicate. Continue reading
What does a teenager want?
1. The desire of a teenager to feel their connection with parents.
If there is no emotional connection, the child will feel insecurity, feel abandoned. A teenager who feels abandoned will often ask questions: “What is wrong with me? Why don’t parents care about me? ”Take time to talk with the children !!
2. Teens want to be accepted:
Accept your children for who they are. Do not try to compare them with others. “My parents love me, everything is fine with me” – this is the opinion of the teenager who is being accepted. The rejected teenager thinks: “They don’t like me. I’m not good enough for them. They would like me to be different. ” A child who feels rejected does not feel love. Continue reading