system of relationships
Say thank you, otherwise it will be worse …
I did not notice how another year flew by and my daughter Yulia was three. Literally in a matter of days, my flexible and good-natured child turned into an imperious little despot. – Give me the juice! She commanded. – Now! “Do you know the magic word?” I tried to call her to order. This phrase acted flawlessly on her older brother Alyosha, but Julia did not want to give in to her. “Are you a hundred, fooled?” Was her answer. – Give me si-xi-s! At first, I only laughed at the little cheeky: before, she was a sweet, calm child, and I often heard the word “posyalist” from her. But time passed, and she stubbornly refused to treat me humanly. The word “please” completely disappeared from her vocabulary. Then I decided to apply repression: do not fulfill a single request without a “please.” After this, a terrible struggle began, which caused only alienation between us. Continue reading
“And don’t fight anymore …” (part 2)
Is there a way out? – First of all, do not be nervous, as this is the problem of most two-year-olds. -l The baby has begun a new period of development and, as a result, outbreaks of aggression. – When you want to get angry and even punish the aggressor, try not to. This can cause a neurotic reaction or even greater aggression. If another baby came to visit you, and your child does not let him play his toys, then no matter how embarrassing you are, do not try to take them away by force and do not shame him – this will only strengthen the possessive feelings of the crumbs. – Try to let the children solve their problems themselves, but within certain limits. Small fights with a push and a squeal are quite acceptable when the kids learn to communicate. Continue reading
Game therapy and fairy tale therapy in the work of a child psychologist (part 3)
Life stories can be a means of influencing forms of relationships; they help build relationships with loved ones and colleagues in a different way.
The story as a guide to action. With the help of a certain intonation, the correct arrangement of the accents of speech, one can contribute to the stimulation of activity.
An interesting story, close and understandable, reduces the level of resistance and cannot harm, because our unconscious rejects everything that seems uninteresting to us. Continue reading
