I did not notice how another year flew by and my daughter Yulia was three. Literally in a matter of days, my flexible and good-natured child turned into an imperious little despot. – Give me the juice! She commanded. – Now! “Do you know the magic word?” I tried to call her to order. This phrase acted flawlessly on her older brother Alyosha, but Julia did not want to give in to her. “Are you a hundred, fooled?” Was her answer. – Give me si-xi-s! At first, I only laughed at the little cheeky: before, she was a sweet, calm child, and I often heard the word “posyalist” from her. But time passed, and she stubbornly refused to treat me humanly. The word “please” completely disappeared from her vocabulary. Then I decided to apply repression: do not fulfill a single request without a “please.” After this, a terrible struggle began, which caused only alienation between us. Continue reading
In order for the story to be therapeutic, it is important that the following rules are followed:
The situation should be close to the child, should resemble his life story.
The hero in a fairy tale is faced with a similar insoluble problem, a conflict situation.
In the tale may appear “helpers” – fairies, wizards. They give clues, but do nothing for the hero.
He has solutions, but the hero himself makes the choice. Continue reading
What does a teenager want?
1. The desire of a teenager to feel their connection with parents.
If there is no emotional connection, the child will feel insecurity, feel abandoned. A teenager who feels abandoned will often ask questions: “What is wrong with me? Why don’t parents care about me? ”Take time to talk with the children !!
2. Teens want to be accepted:
Accept your children for who they are. Do not try to compare them with others. “My parents love me, everything is fine with me” – this is the opinion of the teenager who is being accepted. The rejected teenager thinks: “They don’t like me. I’m not good enough for them. They would like me to be different. ” A child who feels rejected does not feel love. Continue reading