Art therapy for children and adults. Receptions of phototherapy
In modern society, there is an ambiguous attitude to the services of a psychologist, to areas in psychology. Why does a normal person need a psychologist? What can he offer?…

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Teens and parents (part 1)
It seems to me that for no generation the task of educating adolescents has not been as difficult as it is today. Many of the parents I meet in counseling…

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Teens and parents (part 2)
What does a teenager want? 1. The desire of a teenager to feel their connection with parents. If there is no emotional connection, the child will feel insecurity, feel abandoned.…

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Monthly Archives: August 2018

Mom’s daughters, dad’s son

A lot of books have been written about parenting. Each of them has its own advantages and disadvantages, but there is something in common that combines almost all the popular parental aids. It would be more correct to say that these are books not about raising children, but about raising a child, because we are talking about him – the educated – always in the singular, as if without exception the families are one-child. But this is not the only “imbalance”. As a rule, they write about education, using only masculine words: since a child means OH. And it turns out that all the pedagogical recommendations are given to the parents of the only son. But what if the child is not the only one? It would seem that it’s easier – with the birth of the next child, to take and follow the principles that have already been learned. And the rules that apply to the upbringing of the boy can be applied to the girl, as we smear the scratches from one and the other with green from one bottle. Continue reading

Say thank you, otherwise it will be worse …

I did not notice how another year flew by and my daughter Yulia was three. Literally in a matter of days, my flexible and good-natured child turned into an imperious little despot. – Give me the juice! She commanded. – Now! “Do you know the magic word?” I tried to call her to order. This phrase acted flawlessly on her older brother Alyosha, but Julia did not want to give in to her. “Are you a hundred, fooled?” Was her answer. – Give me si-xi-s! At first, I only laughed at the little cheeky: before, she was a sweet, calm child, and I often heard the word “posyalist” from her. But time passed, and she stubbornly refused to treat me humanly. The word “please” completely disappeared from her vocabulary. Then I decided to apply repression: do not fulfill a single request without a “please.” After this, a terrible struggle began, which caused only alienation between us. Continue reading

All works are good - choose to taste!
For many years, the lines from Mayakovsky’s poem were very popular among teachers, parents, and students facing a choice of life path. Today, the answers to these questions have become…

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How not to spoil your child
Continuous tantrums with tears and the demands of fulfilling all the vagaries of children will easily unsettle anyone. If a child is spoiled in childhood, he may develop a complex…

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Night is tender
Our daughter thinks this is unfair. Every winter, since she learned to speak, she protests: "It is unfair that you and dad sleep together, and I am always alone." I…

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When leaving, do not turn off the lights! (part 2)
“One girl often dreaded terrible dreams. Fortunately, as soon as the girl began to dream of Baba Yaga or an evil wolf, she immediately woke up with a wild cry…

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