Waiting for a miracle or 9 months of happiness
What is important for women is children’s health, peace and harmony in the family. The expectation of a child – perhaps there is no happier and more responsible period in a woman’s life – is like a pregnancy, and it does not always matter whether she is long-awaited or unexpected, planned or random, first or next.
The first months of pregnancy are a time of revolutionary changes not only in the physiology of a woman, but also in her psychology. In the inner, innermost space of her “I”, the space of another person appeared, the existence of which must not only be reckoned with, but possibly rebuilt throughout life, change all plans, but not everyone can unconditionally accept these changes. The grandeur of the accomplished event captures all the woman’s thoughts, making her worried: “How will my life develop further? How will the pregnancy proceed? What will happen to my career? Will I be able to provide my baby with a decent future? Will I be a good mother? ”Familiar questions, aren’t they? “Such emotional torment can cause not only a feeling of fatigue and irritability, but even cause toxicosis or the threat of termination of pregnancy. Do not try to solve all problems at the same time and on your own. Set them aside indefinitely, and perhaps some of them will be resolved without your participation. In general, pregnancy is a unique time when you can justifiably allow yourself not to react to life problems, and not feel guilty for such irresponsible behavior.
Remember that more than all material goods in the world, a child needs your attention, understanding and love. Pregnancy makes a woman emotionally vulnerable, prone to anxiety, more sensitive to negative experiences. It seems that the reason for the disorder is insignificant, and my eyes are in a “wet place”, and nothing pleases. Many women are haunted by the feeling that you are “trapped” in incessant nausea, fatigue from somewhere, constant irritability. Doctors explain such an unstable emotional state by the violent hormonal changes that occur in the body. Only the understanding that such a condition is natural and quite physiologically does not make this difficult period easier for a woman.
So many changes are taking place in the soul of a pregnant woman that she can begin to feel very alone in the maelstrom of surging new experiences. All the people around her remained the same, only you alone are in the grip of “pregnant feelings.” But at the same time, the experience of loneliness allows you to look deeper into your own soul, understand yourself, analyze your life experience, and possibly overestimate your life values. Use loneliness for self-knowledge, but do not get too confined in yourself, share your experiences with loved ones, consult a psychologist. And most importantly, start talking with your child, because he is the person closest to you.
Childbirth is a natural event through which millions of women pass from century to century, and at the same time, it is your birth that is a unique case, covered with a veil of sacrament, and frightening with its uncertainty. It is no coincidence that myths, rumors and fears are concentrated around this topic.
Our task is to help future parents boldly open the doors and take the first step towards their child, dispelling the fog of anxiety, doubt and illusion, which hides a long, lifelong road to knowing your child and discovering their own parental resources.
Studies have shown that childbirth is easier for women who have undergone special training, who have a good idea of how the childbirth takes place, who are actively involved in the process of giving birth to their own baby, and are aware that the feelings in the baby’s birth are an order of magnitude stronger than that of the mother. Most of all in life, the unknown scares us. Come to our Center for psychological preparation for childbirth, where together we will overcome anxiety and fear of childbirth and the baby’s health, and most importantly, you will never be left alone with your problem! The center is engaged in emotional, physical, psychological preparation of young parents for the appearance of a child in the family.
A huge role in preparing for motherhood in psychological courses is played by the opportunity to communicate with the same pregnant women. A circle of communication is very important during this period, in which you can talk about problems and joys that are relevant to yourself. Classes in groups are surprisingly useful also because they make it possible to hear from others that it is impossible to formulate yourself. Remember that nature endowed a woman with all the qualities necessary for giving birth to a child – patience, wisdom, intuition. Believe in your own strength!