Teens and parents (part 2)
What does a teenager want?
1. The desire of a teenager to feel their connection with parents.
If there is no emotional connection, the child will feel insecurity, feel abandoned. A teenager who feels abandoned will often ask questions: “What is wrong with me? Why don’t parents care about me? ”Take time to talk with the children !!
2. Teens want to be accepted:
Accept your children for who they are. Do not try to compare them with others. “My parents love me, everything is fine with me” – this is the opinion of the teenager who is being accepted. The rejected teenager thinks: “They don’t like me. I’m not good enough for them. They would like me to be different. ” A child who feels rejected does not feel love.3. Teens want to be respected:
Offensive, harsh, rude words remain for life. Parents who abuse their power physically, slapping, pushing, beating children, can harm the teenager’s physical development, causing serious damage to emotional development and greatly complicate his adult life.
The most important need is to feel loved. The main need of a teenager is to feel the love of those adults who play an important role in his life!
The teenager living in your house is your closest person!
Friendship. Be a friend.
“The fox fell silent and looked at the little prince for a long time. Then he said:
“Please … tame me!”
“I would be glad,” the little prince answered. “But I have so little time.” I still need to find friends and learn different things.
“You can only find out the things that you will tame,” said the Fox. – People don’t have enough time to learn anything. They buy things ready in stores. But after all there are no such shops where they would trade friends, and therefore people no longer have friends. If you want to have a friend … …? ”
The meaning of friendship:
Friendship is a difficult topic. The word “friend” is often confused with the words “acquaintance”, “cute”, “respected”, “buddy”, “brother”. Being friends is not easy. Many understand friendship as a readiness to always say “yes,” to give oneself to full disposal, to satisfy any request of a friend. In friendship it’s not enough to give, you have to ask yourself why you are giving. Then you can understand, for example, that you are trying to compensate for this feeling of guilt or your own inferiority, or you want to bind another person to yourself, or maybe in this way you are just trying to get rid of loneliness. Being a friend does not mean owning it, controlling it. True friendship helps the growth of another person, makes him free, open to life, regardless of us.
We will remember that we are the one and only. We will remember that each of us came to earth to fulfill a task, mission, whatever it may be. Each of us is different from the other. Each of us is an original, not someone else’s copy. You have to be a friend before you have friends.
Friendship is life. Living means relying only on oneself. Without learning to make mistakes and learn from the results of their mistakes, it is impossible to achieve psychological maturity. Friendship is not domination. No one has the right to own another person. Most people can live only by manipulating others, consciously or unconsciously, appropriating the right and duty to change another, not taking into account the personality of a person. In this situation, friendship is impossible.
A friend is one who gives and receives.
Friendship is not manipulation, not use, not charity.
A friend is one who helps and needs help.
True friends see each other as they are, criticize each other and remain friends! ”