Etiquette from an early age (part 2)
Do not forget to praise him. Seryozha was so excited by the upcoming excursion to the zoo that he flew out the door, pushing the teacher away and knocking the girl down in the corridor. His mother, among the three other parents accompanying the children on an excursion, saw this with her own eyes and was simply depressed. “I don’t know what it is with him today,” she told the teacher. “Actually, he’s a very educated boy with me, he knows how to behave.” Even the most educated children at times admit terrible lapses. Often this happens when a child confronts a choice: follow already learned rules or a living example of an uneducated friend. If someone in the group begins to laugh at the new one and tease him, others willingly join, although they know that this is not good. If one of the children behaves ugly at food, he will surely have followers. Do not be surprised if your child is among them. This does not mean that he did not remember anything from your lessons. He remembers everything perfectly. Would you like to ignore his gross blunders? Too violently reacting to them is also not worth it. Avoid reprimands and comments in public, especially in the presence of his friends. Wait until you are alone and let him know that his mistake did not go unnoticed. “I have to have something with a hearing. I didn’t hear you apologize. ” But most importantly, do not forget to praise him when he makes efforts to be polite. Tell him how pleased Aunt Lena was to receive a compliment from him. Make sure he gets the most out of what he can now write and send greeting cards. Help your child create a calendar to indicate when and whom to congratulate. This is a table, eat at it … Particular attention should be paid to the behavior of the child at the table. At the dining table you can only eat, but you can play at the coffee table and at the desk. The sooner you start, the better. So, up to a year and a half, plant a peanut while eating in a high armchair, along with everyone, so that he feels himself part of the family and watches how the elders behave. From one and a half to three years it is already worth explaining to the baby that it is impossible to play with food. Give him the opportunity to eat on his own, it is best to buy special children’s appliances, beautiful and unbreakable. If a child spits out food and behaves inappropriately, pay attention to the fact that none of the elders does this. From three to six years, the baby is already able to wash his hands before eating, may ask him to hand him a dish, knows how to use a napkin. He is already able to eat and drink gently, and by the age of six, some children know how to hold a knife and a fork. From the age of six, it makes sense to bring the child to the table setting, and then ask for help to clean the dishes. Children should already feel confident enough when invited to the table at a party. In any case, what is “not comme il faut” a child can understand only if you explained it to him. Not only explained, but also shown how to behave in accordance with etiquette. The only thing that mom and dad should remember is that the lesson should be taught more than once. A few rules for fostering good manners: ● Be a good role model. ● Demonstrate courtesy in action: “Please pass on bread to dad, as I gave you.” ● Explain why this is important: “When you do good to others, you yourself are pleased.” ● Prepare your child in advance: “What do you think you need to tell a friend when you come to his birthday?” ● Imperceptibly tell the baby how to behave in a particular situation. At a party, show how you put a napkin on your knees, hold it slightly by the shoulder to let the girl forward, letting you see when he is doing something wrong. Encourage good manners, do not forget to praise the child for them.