Etiquette from an early age (part 1)
Children brought up in life have a number of advantages: there is something in them that attracts and holds people. They feel much freer in society, including unfamiliar, easier to cope with new and even awkward situations. They are very optimistic about life – and they have reason for this. They grow up responsive to the needs and feelings of others, and therefore they manage any role in the family, whether it be the role of spouse, wife, father, son or daughter. But in order to educate these valuable qualities in your children, you need constant efforts for many years. Do you respect me? Good manners are important to us, and at times we are simply shocked when our little one publicly demonstrates their absence. But young children are too self-centered and impulsive to think of others. When a one-year-old wants a toy, he WANTS it, regardless of how it relates to its owner. However, even the smallest children are able to learn some lessons that will be useful to them in the future. Therefore, from birth, be polite to your child. Talk to him always gently and kindly, be responsive to his unexpressed needs and desires. Children who are treated with respect from the very beginning grow up with a sense of confidence and self-respect, which allows them to be friendly and polite to others. Help develop this good attitude towards people by celebrating and encouraging even the smallest unselfish impulse. For example, a baby is giving you a favorite toy or trying to feed you, do not forget to thank him and smile back. And if you did something nice to him and catch his grateful look, fix this moment with a smile, gesture or word. Tell him: “please,” “good health.” By the way, some mothers teach a child who still does not know how to speak, to thank with a nod of his head. Great thought. The magic word Three-year-old kid, having pushed other children out of turn, climbs up the hill. “Hey,” another little man shouts to him, “they don’t do that!” A child at the age of three will hardly understand much from an educational conversation about good manners, but he is able to learn a specific lesson in a specific situation. If you calmly take his hand, take him to the end of the line and explain that you have to wait, like all the other children, then, of course, not the first time, but the baby will learn it. In some cases, it is useful to warn the child in advance about what behavior you expect from him in a particular situation. A typical example is that you are visiting your grandmother. Children of this age themselves want to know what to expect from this or that event, so do not forget to tell the baby where you will go, whom you will meet there, what you will do. Explain what he should do in a given case. Just do not overload your conversation with numerous and complex instructions. One or two wishes, no more, let’s say: “You can’t run and make noise with your grandmother.” Proceed to new lessons only when you are convinced that the previous ones are already learned. This does not mean that the child says “thank you” every time, in your opinion, he should do it. This means that from time to time he does it himself, without reminders. Hello! I’m listening to you … Five-year-old Dasha already knows and follows the elementary rules of politeness. Therefore, her mother is perplexed when Dasha leaves the street without saying a word to her friends in the sandbox. “Say goodbye,” mom recalls. But the girl is stubbornly silent. Preschoolers already feel good that any team lives according to certain rules, which its members are required to observe. For the most part, they seek to do this themselves and expect the same from others. However, five-six years old still have poor control over their emotions and can forget all the rules of politeness under the influence of resentment, anger or fatigue. Help your child go beyond his own “I”, exercise his growing ability to empathize. “What do you think your girlfriend feels when you leave without saying goodbye?”, “Wouldn’t you be offended if she did this to you?” As the child’s social life becomes more complicated, you need to devote everything more time and attention to developing strong behavior skills in different situations. Decide how best to do this, use game situations. Let’s say a toy phone can teach a child to answer calls correctly, speak clearly and politely, call himself when your friends call. Having mastered the art of answering calls, a child can begin to learn to call himself, give thanks for a congratulation or a gift, and invite guests.