Alone with myself (part 3)
EVERYTHING IS GOOD IN MEASURE “Our daughter is nine, and when she comes from school, she immediately sits down in front of the TV, no matter what they show, instead of first doing homework. How can we deal with this senseless waste of time? ”Do not forget that schooling is work. Like any job, it absorbs a lot of energy. So when a girl comes home from school, she needs to relax a bit. TV is an opportunity to distract, to switch attention, this is one of the most passive and relaxing activities. If you manage to put the case in such a way that the child watches some useful, developing programs, then this will not be a waste of time. But the more time you allow the child to spend on the TV, the less he will have to read, chat with friends, sports, walks, any creative activities. Two hours a day is not a tragedy, especially if you control what the child is watching, but two hours every day is already a bit too much. However, some children are so “staring” that they have to be torn from the “box” literally by force, otherwise they will sit in front of him until night. This is already a serious problem, since certain properties of the character of the child are manifested here. Many seven-, eight-, and even nine-year-olds are not yet ready to do homework without supervision. You may be able to combine supervision with cooking dinner and other things if you put your child to do homework in the kitchen. Some parents find it useful to divide their homework into two parts, one of which the child will complete before and the other after the walk. For other children, it is enough to get up from the table every half hour and jump for five minutes to the music. The task of parents is to teach the child to maintain a balance between duties and pleasures. The tendency to relax too much can prevent him from realizing his potential. A cult of work and effort to the detriment of pleasure can deprive a talent of enjoying life. Our concern is to help the child find and maintain this balance.