Alone with myself (part 2)
SENSE EQUILIBRIUM OR BRILLIANT FUETE? “In the group of our Irishka, everyone is recorded somewhere. Who attends music lessons, who dances, who goes to figure skating or gymnastics, but she does not want to go anywhere. We are afraid that she will miss this “time of great opportunities.” Should we persevere and choose something for her? ”It is very difficult to decide when it is necessary to push the child, when to hold. On the one hand, we are worried that our child will lag behind others if we are not persistent enough. On the other hand, there is a risk that our perseverance will only increase the child’s resistance and make him, so to speak, “chronic”. Before making a decision, think about what your baby is and what he may need. Does he show even the slightest interest in those activities to which you would like to attract him? Does he like those peers who attend these classes? And who, in fact, has a problem: you or your child? Children are often wary of any new activities, especially those where they will have to compete with their peers or at least withstand comparisons with other children. We can help them relieve excess tension if we provide the opportunity, so to speak, to try water with our feet before diving. If your daughter is not at all a fan of doing something “for company” and prefers to dance alone at home to the music of The Nutcracker, leave her alone. Perhaps next year she herself will announce her desire to take dance lessons. Or maybe he will not announce and will live happily ever after without these lessons. Many children simply get tired of kindergarten from a peer society and prefer to be alone or with their family in their free time. Give them this opportunity. Peace of mind, a strong nervous system – more valuable capital in life than a good stretch and any fouet. Read also: origami swan from modules female consultation 195 how to grow twins children’s drawing beauty and health at 4 months the child squeals from stomach pain and then farts SPORTS, SPORTS, SPORTS … “Our Toshka is just a sports fanatic. He is soon eight, and he wants to do everything at once: swimming, judo, skiing, football. We are concerned that he may overwork and undermine his health, not to mention the fact that he will not have the strength to do anything else. What loads can be considered harmless for this age? ”Between six and eight years, boys and girls begin to strive for sports achievements and be proud of them. By this time, they have developed the ability of self-control, good coordination of movements and the ability to follow certain rules. They begin to enjoy the game and team sports. Most children are content with ordinary outdoor games in the yard. If for some reason the child does not have such an opportunity, an energetic child may really want to attend ten sections at once. Here, however, prudence is required of parents. Obviously, there are desires that should only be welcomed. It’s good for everyone to learn how to swim, and even swim well. Some kind of struggle for the boy will also be useful. Just do not have to do it all at once. You can agree with the child that, for example, he will begin to go swimming first. And if in a year he achieves such and such results (consult a trainer), then you will allow him to attend judo … etc. Even if he is carried away by the new, he will abandon the old, then at least it will be insulting, since he will already master the necessary minimum of skills. If the child is seriously involved in some kind of sport – let’s say he goes to training three times a week – this is more than enough for a growing body. In this case, it is better to wait a while with other “organized” activities. Doctors persistently warn against excessive stress on children whose bones have not yet been strengthened. If your child is very passionate and always wants to be the first, he should be limited all the more. It is in such children that the risk of injury is highest. This does not mean, of course, that in his free days he must not chase a ball or puck in the yard. Exercising is associated not only with physical, but also with psychological stress. After all, it is always a contest. Think about whether your son’s enthusiasm is fueled by any member of the family. Perhaps the achievements he dreams of are just a way to please you, to draw your attention. Is he able to get along with peers? Some children, not being able to find their place in the team, are trying to compensate for this by victories in some other field. Sometimes – not instead of sports, but in addition to it – it can be useful to practice some social skills. It happens that a child is fanatically passionate about sports to the detriment of everything else. Then prohibitions and restrictions, as a rule, do not bring benefits. On the contrary, you can use his passion wisely. If he does not like to read, perhaps for books about sports and athletes he will make an exception.