Alone with myself (part 1)
In our efforts to keep the children busy, to make every hour of their life meaningful, entertaining, developing, do we not forget that they, like us, need just free, personal time, not planned by anyone. Time to relax, think, dream, just to “fool around” (an activity not very loved by school teachers). We feel annoyed when the child refuses some useful, from our point of view, classes after school, but is ready for the tenth time in a row to play the same film. Why does it make us sad and angry? Probably, deep down in our hearts, we believe that something is wrong with him or that we cannot cope with our parental responsibilities if we did not load our child every minute with something useful. Recall, however, how many of us are able to be active all day without breaks, whether it is a relaxing hot tub, talking with a friend on the phone, or a silly series? Even babies need to be alone for some time each day, knock on their rattles, carefully examine their toes and listen to music. SIMPLY LOOK AT THE WINDOW “Our one and a half year old Sema spends all days with a nanny – an old woman from a neighboring house. Our language does not turn to ask her to somehow “develop” or additionally work out with the child. He feeds, walks, puts to sleep – and thank God. What should we do to compensate for the lack of impressions and useful activities in his life? ”Young children are full of curiosity and amazement before the outside world. They are interested in everything around, even the simplest things are new and entertaining for them. If only the baby is not kept constantly in the arena, if he has the ability to move freely around the apartment, and even more so to go for a walk outside, then he has enough impressions. Do not worry about somehow specifically developing it. At this age, he does not need anything special – only the freedom to watch, listen and touch everything that comes in his way. The baby’s brain grows with fantastic speed. Between a year and two, most children do not need special classes and mental exercises to stimulate their development. They cope with this themselves. All they need is the supervision of a caring adult and room for initiative. A trip to the nearest store, where there are so many sounds, people and new items, gives quite enough emotions and impressions for a two-year-old child. At the same time, early swimming or music lessons will not harm him, and you will be given the feeling of fulfilled parental duty, not to mention that this is a great entertainment for parents. If time and money allow, you can well sign up for some Sunday classes for children under the age of three, where they will meet and exchange experiences with other parents. The main interest and benefit of such classes is precisely in order to make new acquaintances and exchange experiences. The ordinary daily life, which seems to you poor and monotonous, for a baby can be full of content and interest and does not require any compensation at all. It makes no sense to drive a two-year-old baby to the zoo, for which finding a spider in the crevice of the wall is the most fantastic adventure. In such cases, an overdose can only do harm. Children under three years old are not yet able to regulate their own regime and flow of impressions. They can forget about hunger and fatigue, but we must not forget about anything. The best thing that parents can do on weekends is to preserve as much as possible the usual daily routine of the child, not to radically change either the nature of his activities or the nature of his nutrition. A walk in the same children’s park, but with mom or dad, ordinary household chores like making dumplings or sewing buttons – that’s all he needs. Even if you are planning some special entertainments – going on a visit, to the amusement park, to the “bird” market – make sure that the child has enough “quiet” time during the day (not counting daytime sleep): your typewriter, flip through an old book, just look out the window.