Tale to the rescue (part 2)
Do-it-yourself miracles What problems do their parents turn to fairy tales therapists? This includes numerous children’s fears, and increased aggressiveness, and hyperactivity, and laziness, and self-doubt, and inability to communicate with the team or make friends, and even soreness. Often, it is with psychosomatics that the child closes from the problems that frighten him. “In a kindergarten group,” says Natalya Katsevich, a case from practice, “a charming girl cried for any reason: they didn’t give a toy, she didn’t want to sleep, the soup was hot, etc. This went on for several weeks, and then the tale “Tearful Masha” arose, which the psychologist read to the girl. Parents read this tale to her several times, and in the summer a miracle happened when the girl found a hedgehog and began to look after him – everything is just like in our fairy tale. The baby had a kind of switch to the problems of another creature, she began to take care of the hedgehog, and she was not up to the vagaries: she felt responsible and many of the reasons for her tears ceased to seem worthy of attention to her. All this, of course, happened on a subconscious level. ” When a child goes to school, parents will face many problems: someone is not able to listen to the teacher, sitting on the spot a whole lesson, someone is not used to working in a team, someone is embarrassed by their own shortcomings, someone is simply not ready study. Fairytale therapists have fairy tales for every occasion. But most importantly, they will be able to understand the reasons for this or that behavior of the child. For example, Natalya Katsevich invented the fairy tale “How Mishka studied at school” especially for a boy who did not want to study. In the process of fairy-tale therapy, it turned out that all this happened because he was not given grades in the first grade, and he did not perceive the praise of the teacher as something valuable. “Children want to get grades faster, because many of them try so hard in the classroom,” Katsevich explains. – But marks are made from the second grade, but not all children perceive the teacher’s oral assessment. The fairy tale (it is now often used for parents and first-grade children) helped children and parents understand that a child comes to school to receive knowledge, not grades. ” Read also: 4 days of delay there are no signs of pregnancy hyperprolactinemia when MRI is prescribed fiction in persons fiction about the class introduction of complementary foods fish how to check candied honey Often teachers and parents complain to psychologists that the child has no motivation to study. In such a case, according to Natalya Katsevich, they have a fairy tale “The Lazy Little Mouse” – “she already helped the children of the“ School of Cooperation ”cope with laziness, the parents realized how important independence and new discoveries were for their child and were able to support the child in this. Then the child developed an interest in cognitive activity. ” It is very important that the fairy-tale invented “for the occasion” does not copy the problem and the situation, but only hints at it. Metaphor and allegory – an indispensable element of not only the original folk, but also artificially created, psychotherapeutic tales. Only then will she not push the baby away, but help him. By the way, there are times when a fairy tale “with an open” solution is no less effective than one in which, albeit in an artistic form, the answer is spoken out. Finding one’s own solution is not always possible for adults, as fairy tale therapists work with a mature audience too. However, children often cope with this easier, because their consciousness is still not too “clogged” with conventions, rules and experiences of the adult world. “Not always a psychological fairy tale can work miracles,” warns Natalia Feliksovna Katsevich, the leading pedagogical psychologist at the “School of Cooperation”. – Then you have to turn to other techniques, such as art therapy, psychodrama, sand therapy, puppet therapy (theatrical games). Fairytale therapy is a long and hard work of a psychologist with a child and parents. The effect will certainly be, but it depends on the individual characteristics and condition of the child. In my practice, working with one child could take from two weeks to one year using various psychological techniques. ” “Quickly the fairy tale affects, not quickly the thing is done” – reminds fabulous wisdom. Working with a fairy tale is a long process. Children are not inclined to draw conclusions and analyze the tale immediately and out loud. The process of the effect of a fairy tale on the child’s consciousness occurs imperceptibly for parents, but the results eventually come to light.