When leaving, do not turn off the lights! (part 2)
“One girl often dreaded terrible dreams. Fortunately, as soon as the girl began to dream of Baba Yaga or an evil wolf, she immediately woke up with a wild cry and immediately escaped from her terrible dream. Once, on the night of Thursday to Friday, the girl dreamed of Baba Yaga 7 times, and then 9 times – an evil wolf. The question is, how many times a night from Thursday to Friday woke up from wild cries and fell out of bed girls grandfather? “Read also: how to calculate how many folds need to be made from 6 meters tulle to 3 meters children’s magazine for 8 years old how to hang curtains and tulle how to sew the petals of the flower to the hood which threads are needed for tatting Or here: “Baba Yaga has 3 warts on her nose, and Kashchei the Immortal has 6 more warts. How many warts are crowded on the nose of Kashchei the Immortal? ”Warts on the nose somehow reduce the villainous dignity of these unpleasant persons, right? Are they really afraid of these – there are two old men, some strange, but not scary, bony, ragged, maybe beggars, and bashfully hide their noses … We have come to a new turn in the topic of your conversation with your child: ANY VILLAIN CAN BE READY AND REQUIRED. Recall the famous song – “A dog is a bite only from the life of a dog”, or the words of the postman Pechkin from Prostokvashino when he was presented with a bicycle: “Why was I not good? Because I didn’t have a bicycle. And now I’m going to start boarding right away. ” But there is another way, the surest, to beat his fear in your story invented with the child. A character should appear in it weaker, more timid, less than the child himself, whom he needs to comfort, calm, protect. Let it be the younger brother, puppy, chick or even a Flower, like the Little Prince. One or more of your stories, if you wish, can easily be turned into a script for a home performance. Finally, the next trick to dealing with fear is DRAWING. Invite the child to draw his fear. Certainty partly alleviates anxiety and mobilizes strength. It is one thing if he is afraid of a certain Baba Yaga, quite another if this particular old woman with a crooked nose, green eyes and a dozen yellow buttons on a gray dress. Now let the child portray his fear of the vanquished. If you suddenly noticed that in the drawing the child is trying to punish the villain in his own ways, i.e. simply to take revenge, other means should be sought together, for it is known that evil cannot be defeated by evil. Now it’s time to remember about GAMES. Indispensable help are hidden and hidden hutches, napkins, blindfolds, known to everyone from small to large. Did you consider them simple fun? Not at all! The game develops agility, speed of reaction, ability to take risks, unexpected decisions, the ability to subordinate one’s behavior to the requirements of the rules and coordinate it with the actions of others. In excitement, headlong, our coward rushes to the old barn to hide in his dark corner, pouring merrily, trying to escape from the pursuing little wand, blindfolding his eyes and moving to the touch in complete obscurity. Thus, the child receives a new, positive experience of meeting with frightening circumstances, begins to feel more confident in space, better aware of his abilities. Create your own games. For example, you can go to the “circumnavigation”. Inverted stools, chairs, sofa cushions will represent dangerous obstacles that need to crawl, climb or jump over. My mother’s belt lying on the floor is a narrow cable car over the abyss, a dining table is a dark grotto, an old checkered blanket is a makeshift raft, swaying on a river wave. Let me remind you, our goal is not to eliminate fear in general, but to teach a child to subordinate his will to his blind power, to control, to overcome. Fear is not an absolute evil. It can bear both thin and good fruits. For example, it would be impossible for a completely fearless person to understand the fear of another, or to help the poor fellow. The experience of fear aggravates the feeling of comfort, warmth, security, and teaches to appreciate simple, everyday joy, finally. In the Russian language, by the way, the word “fear” occurs in two senses – fear and reverence (“fear of God”), avoiding sin — it is a fear of offending another, condemning, fear of one’s greed, hard-heartedness, and indifference. Losing this fear is really SCARY! So, go! Through obstacles and setbacks, steep road to the heights of knowledge and overcoming. And if on this way your child’s heart will still be pounding with fear from time to time, tell him that he can always quietly, with his lips, but wholeheartedly call for help from his Guardian Angel and then calmly and boldly take the next step!