Game therapy

Say thank you, otherwise it will be worse ...
I did not notice how another year flew by and my daughter Yulia was three. Literally in a matter of days, my flexible and good-natured child turned into an imperious…

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Comparative analysis of the structural components of personality (part 2)
We can apply this approach to study the personality of a teenager, taking into account age-related characteristics and the age norm. Thus, scientific psychodiagnostics is impossible outside the system-structural analysis…

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QA by the rules
What do parents teach modern parenting books? Let's open at random any. “If you feel offense, ask yourself what made the child inflict it on you”, “... you should treat…

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Night is tender

Our daughter thinks this is unfair. Every winter, since she learned to speak, she protests: “It is unfair that you and dad sleep together, and I am always alone.” I never hear from her such complaints in the summer, when no one wants to touch the wet skin of another, and even at night the fans are working, blowing our bodies apart expiring later. But when November comes — yes, November is there, we have frosty nights even in September — even an extra blanket will not warm if you sleep alone … Perhaps the daughter is right, complaining about the injustice of fate. But now, when she is ten years old and a meter and a half in her growth, she has already come out of the age when the children climb into bed with their parents. I feel a little guilty. But adults should have their own joys. At least this advantage I can not give up. Marital bed is one of the main joys of family life. Continue reading

QA by the rules

What do parents teach modern parenting books? Let’s open at random any. “If you feel offense, ask yourself what made the child inflict it on you”, “… you should treat your hobbies with respect, even if they seem empty or harmful to you, they have the right to their own desires and mistakes”, “ … avoid talking with your child between things, standing facing a stove or sink, etc., he should feel your full attention. ” And finally, the authoritative opinion of American psychologists is given: according to vital indications, it is necessary, as they say, to hug a child at least four times a day! So, if the child appeared instead of two at half-past five without one mittens, with wet legs and a “deuce” in Russian, mother, having been exhausted, having canceled the hairdresser and the visit to the dentist, turned everything upside down, but could not find the analgin, the rest of the ill-fated day cuddle with your child two, three, or even all four times? Continue reading

What are our kids made of?

One French psychologist came up with a way to explain some of our prejudices in raising boys and girls. This test is intended primarily for parents and educators. Check how true the views are. We offer you 20 questions that need to be answered YES if you agree with this statement, and NO if you have a different opinion. When you read the answers, you can evaluate whether you are right or not. 1. Girls are more obedient than boys? 2. Do girls more deeply seek to know nature, animals than boys? 3. Can boys better assess a difficult situation, think more logically? 4. Do boys have a greater desire to stand out? 5. Are boys more capable of math? 6. Are girls more sensitive to the atmosphere in which they live, are they more difficult to endure pain? 7. Are girls able to better express their thoughts? 8. Is it possible to consider that boys are better with visual memory, and girls have better hearing? Continue reading

Mom’s daughters, dad’s son

A lot of books have been written about parenting. Each of them has its own advantages and disadvantages, but there is something in common that combines almost all the popular parental aids. It would be more correct to say that these are books not about raising children, but about raising a child, because we are talking about him – the educated – always in the singular, as if without exception the families are one-child. But this is not the only “imbalance”. As a rule, they write about education, using only masculine words: since a child means OH. And it turns out that all the pedagogical recommendations are given to the parents of the only son. But what if the child is not the only one? It would seem that it’s easier – with the birth of the next child, to take and follow the principles that have already been learned. And the rules that apply to the upbringing of the boy can be applied to the girl, as we smear the scratches from one and the other with green from one bottle. Continue reading

Say thank you, otherwise it will be worse …

I did not notice how another year flew by and my daughter Yulia was three. Literally in a matter of days, my flexible and good-natured child turned into an imperious little despot. – Give me the juice! She commanded. – Now! “Do you know the magic word?” I tried to call her to order. This phrase acted flawlessly on her older brother Alyosha, but Julia did not want to give in to her. “Are you a hundred, fooled?” Was her answer. – Give me si-xi-s! At first, I only laughed at the little cheeky: before, she was a sweet, calm child, and I often heard the word “posyalist” from her. But time passed, and she stubbornly refused to treat me humanly. The word “please” completely disappeared from her vocabulary. Then I decided to apply repression: do not fulfill a single request without a “please.” After this, a terrible struggle began, which caused only alienation between us. Continue reading

Tale to the rescue (part 3)
am a storyteller Psychologist Natalya Katsevich advises parents to read, for example, fairy tales A.V. Miklyaeva, “We Are Not Afraid of the Gray Wolf” P.V. Rumyantseva, “Path to your Self”…

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Game therapy and fairy tale therapy in the work of a child psychologist (part 3)
Life stories can be a means of influencing forms of relationships; they help build relationships with loved ones and colleagues in a different way. The story as a guide to…

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Game therapy and fairy tale therapy in the work of a child psychologist (part 4)
In order for the story to be therapeutic, it is important that the following rules are followed: The situation should be close to the child, should resemble his life story.…

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Game therapy and fairy tale therapy in the work of a child psychologist (part 3)
Life stories can be a means of influencing forms of relationships; they help build relationships with loved ones and colleagues in a different way. The story as a guide to…

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