SENSE EQUILIBRIUM OR BRILLIANT FUETE? “In the group of our Irishka, everyone is recorded somewhere. Who attends music lessons, who dances, who goes to figure skating or gymnastics, but she does not want to go anywhere. We are afraid that she will miss this “time of great opportunities.” Should we persevere and choose something for her? ”It is very difficult to decide when it is necessary to push the child, when to hold. On the one hand, we are worried that our child will lag behind others if we are not persistent enough. On the other hand, there is a risk that our perseverance will only increase the child’s resistance and make him, so to speak, “chronic”. Before making a decision, think about what your baby is and what he may need. Does he show even the slightest interest in those activities to which you would like to attract him? Does he like those peers who attend these classes? Continue reading
I did not notice how another year flew by and my daughter Yulia was three. Literally in a matter of days, my flexible and good-natured child turned into an imperious little despot. – Give me the juice! She commanded. – Now! “Do you know the magic word?” I tried to call her to order. This phrase acted flawlessly on her older brother Alyosha, but Julia did not want to give in to her. “Are you a hundred, fooled?” Was her answer. – Give me si-xi-s! At first, I only laughed at the little cheeky: before, she was a sweet, calm child, and I often heard the word “posyalist” from her. But time passed, and she stubbornly refused to treat me humanly. The word “please” completely disappeared from her vocabulary. Then I decided to apply repression: do not fulfill a single request without a “please.” After this, a terrible struggle began, which caused only alienation between us. Continue reading
More complicated is the situation with cognitive activity. It takes time before the requirements for the child on the part of the adult, his program (to give knowledge for the future, for the future) will turn into a child’s own program. The rudiments of this ability are already being formed at an older preschool age. But these are only the beginnings; at 6-7 years, they still do not reach full development. Adults should not forget about this feature of 6-year-olds, observe the gradualness in demanding, take into account the opportunities, interests, needs of children of this age.
It should be borne in mind that a distinctive feature of volitional regulation of preschoolers’ behavior is the unity of the motivational and operational sides, that is, the child’s characteristic attitude to difficulties and his typical ways of overcoming them. Continue reading